26 Teaching Minds I most certainly taught the lessons this writer describes. I hated it when students couldn't get to the point and I frequently interrupted them when they were speaking. In business, I make a point of saying things that are very simple, which tends to upset people. I find this a good way to start a conversation that addresses complex issues. Of course, I never actually say any of this. I simply do it. The real issue in teaching, by parents or by teachers or by anyone else, is the model you present to the students. That model is presented by what they see you do and how they see you act. They can choose to emulate you or not. But a good teacher makes students think about how to behave and about what works and what doesn’t. | believe that effective teaching makes .. . students think about how the teacher is behaving and causes the students to wonder about whether copying this behavior would be a good idea students think about what works and what doesn’t in the adult world This next writer is a professor at a major university. I hired him to be on the faculty at Yale, which was his first academic job. I teach by telling stories that are meaningful to me. I let them see who I am and how I live. I let them see what is important to me and why. To be a real teacher you have to let yourself be vulnerable. The student needs to see that you are a human with feelings and fears and goals. You are saying to students: This is the way I do it; it fits with who I am; it helps me be successful; and don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something. Everyone wants to control you, but in the end, you have to be you, for better or worse. So, don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something. I tell that story over and over and over again in different ways. About my research, about my company, about my family. I walk the talk. And, the students have to see that there are consequences of breaking the rules; that it costs; and the costs can be high H