Page |151 transcendence and belonging can Our relationship to it comes into play in simultaneously lead to greater fitness of conceptualizing loneliness, the individual and increased cohesion anthropomorphism, spirituality, group and sustainability of the social behavior, empathy, and inclusive fitness. organization—another indication of When we speak of loneliness, this positive selection associated with the boundary seems to be an impenetrable social brain. barrier. When we speak of empathy or Thearerien ahresenanes with anthropomorphism, however, the self- another appears repeatedly through the ot _ boundary is conned by a . book. Our connections to others derive similarity and conenence of individuals in part from being able to see what they te One anginer, providing a ans patent see, to hear what they hear, to know window through whieh We Perceive ana what they know, to feel what they feel. interact with others (who must be like Or we have to be able to believe not only Ws). Send when weispeak ar eroup that this is possible, but that 1t happens. synchrony, the boundary vanishes The social brain, in which the sare completely: self and other are one. regions are activated by our own Successful engagement with experience of pain and by our perception others requires work. It is the work of of others in pain, makes both aspects attending to something, and it is work possible. There is a close connection that often is needed to resolve competing between being able to “feel for” another forces. Thinking about other minds is a (empathy) and to “see into” another demanding task and requires attentional mind (anthropomorphism). effort. It is this effort that allows us to Language has the potential to manipulate the transparency of the self- affect people and groups in part because other boundary by what we put in it is tied to meaning. Language is the throug! learaiag, eftending, seeking, and medium through which we convey, projecting. In effect, we can tune the prese