http://bitchyjones. wordpress.com/2009/03/14/bondage-awards-not-actually-sexist-on- purpose/ -- [back] 4. The male submissive blogger maymay is pissed: http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/ what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/ -- [back] ok oe Manliness: Fifty Shades of Grey, Fight Club, and the Complications of Male Dominance 1. The sex writer Violet Blue offers some hilarious Fifty Shades commentary and linkfarming: http:/(www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2012/04/fifty-shades-of- linkbait.html The writer A.V. Flox also did a really great analysis of how badly Fifty Shades deals with S&M: http:/(www.blogher.com/troubling-message-fifty-shades-grey -- [back] 2. Pepper Mint's blog: http://freaksexual.wordpress.com/ -- [back] ok Abuse: The Alt Sex Anti-Abuse Dream Team 1. The post on SM-Feminist about the prevalence of abuse in the community: http://sm- feminist. blogspot.com/2007/1 1/wut-about-abuuuuuuuuuuzers.html -- [back] 2. A post on SM-Feminist about an abuse survivor who learned to set boundaries and protect herself through BDSM: http://sm-feminist.blogspot.com/2008/0 1/not-your-usual- bdsm-and-abuse-story.html -- [back] 3. Thomas MacAulay Millar's article "Not What We Do": http://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2010/09/2 1/not-what-we-do/ -- [back] 4. Front image of a pamphlet about abuse in BDSM: http://www. flickr.com/photos/35620214(@N02/3488055736/ -- Back image of same pamphlet: http://www. flickr.com/photos/35620214@N02/3487239893/ -- [back] 5. Statement on BDSM and abuse from the Leather Leadership Conference: http://www.leatherleadership.org/library/diffsmabuse.htm -- Statement on BDSM and abuse from the Lesbian Sex Mafia: http://lesbiansexmafia.org/Ismnyc/bdsm-is-not-abuse/ -- [back] 6. Kink Aware Professionals: https://ncsfreedom.org/resources/kink-aware-professionals- directory/kap-directory-homepage.html -- [back] ok oe Section 2: Activism and Allies ok Activism: Grassroots Organizing For Feminism, S&M, HIV, and Ev