directory/kap-directory-homepage.html -- [back] 3. Betty Dodson's video "Did I Orgasm?": http://www. youtube.com/v/rkCihT 1mkme¢ -- [back] 4. Our definitions of orgasm are fairly narrow: http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/a/what_is_orgasm.htm -- [back] ok Boundaries: Orgasms Aren't My Favorite Part Of Sex, and My Chastity Urge 1. Deliberately limiting orgasms for a more amorous relationship: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/too-many-orgasms/ -- [back] 2. Scarleteen discusses women and "squirting" orgasms: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/squirt_on female ejaculation -- [back] ok Evolution: Sexual Openness: Two Ways To Encourage It 1. Comstock Films makes documentaries about real couples and how they have sex: http://comstockfilms.com/ -- [back] 2. CineKink, "the really alternative film festival": http://cinekink.com -- [back] ok Relationships: Fear, Loathing, and S&M Sluthood in San Francisco 1. My blog post "There It Is": http://clarissethorn.wordpress.com/2010/10/28/litquote- storytime-there-it-is/ -- [back] 2. The Sutro Baths, extraordinary ruins in San Francisco: http://www. flickr.com/photos/vicster/28 1635523 1/in/set-72157607093679758/ -- [back] 3. A blog post I wrote on the perils of vanilla-but-questioning dudes: http://clarissethorn.wordpress.com/2010/1 1/05/bdsm-vs-vanilla-part- 1-why-i-pretend-i- dont-date-vanilla-but-questioning-men/ -- [back] 4. The "lost" 21st chapter of A Clockwork Orange: http://www.visual- memory.co.uk/amk/doc/0062.html -- [back] ok S&M: BDSM As A Sexual Orientation, and Complications of the Orientation Model 1. BDSM-phobic thread on a radical feminist blog: http://rageagainstthemanchine.com/2009/02/07/please-somebody-come-and-defend- kinkcom/ -- [back] 2. BDSM-related discrimination case and orientation notes from Charles Moser: http://www.xtra.ca/public/Vancouver/BDSM_lifestyler_unfit_to_drive_a_limo_police- 6577.aspx -- [back] HOUSE_OVERSIGHT_018689