Asher Bauer: http://carnalnation.com/content/49458/1067/word-day-cis -- [back] 2. Analysis of the "virgin" shoot at Kink.com: http://missmaggiemayhem.com/2011/01/12/virginity/ -- [back] 3. Most women don't achieve orgasm through penis-in-vagina sex alone: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/i_cant_orgasm_from_intercourse_and_its ruini ng_my_relationship -- [back] 4. Asexual writer discusses sex-positive feminism: http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2012/02/07/an-asexual-map-for-sex-positive- feminism/ -- [back] ok oe S&M: S&M Superpowers 1. Study demonstrates that BDSM desires do not arise from abuse: http://www.news.com.au/top-stories/bondage-lovers-normal-maybe-even-happier/story- e6frfkp9-1111117296864 -- [back] 2. A post of mine on nonsensical stigma, in the context of whore stigma: http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2010/12/17/whore-stigma-makes-no-sense/ -- [back] 3. Psychology paper "Learning from Extraordinary Lovers" by Peggy Kleinplatz: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih. gov/pubmed/16803770 -- [back] 4. Study finds that consensual S&M increases intimacy: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/18563549 -- [back] ok S&M: BDSM Can Be "Love Sex" Too 1. Rachel Rabbit White's "Lady Porn Day”: http://rachelrabbitwhite.com/ladypornday/ -- [back] * ok oe S&M: Body Chemistry and S&M 1. Awesome page on aftercare: http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/chrismaftercare.htm -- [back] 2. EduKink is a pair of San Francisco S&M educators: http://www.edukink.org/ -- [back] ok Orgasmic "Dysfunction": A Unified Theory of Orgasm 1. A tactic called "gaslighting" is a common one used by emotional abusers: http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/201 1/11/21/one-abuse-script-with-many-faces/ -- [back] 2. Kink Aware Professionals: https://ncsfreedom.org/resources/kink-aware-professionals- HOUSE_OVERSIGHT_018688