The most important thing for my safety is that I'm willing and able to walk away from situations. I'm not desperate -- I won't starve or die if I don't do this work. I meet all my clients in public first for a meal, and if someone sketches me out, I leave. I'm not so desperate that I'll get into a situation that scares me. I guess I am at risk if I meet a really crazy person who wants to chop me up and put me in a dumpster. But I could meet a person like that during a normal night at a bar, too. The major risks that I see include that I might catch an STD -- but I use protection. I might end up alone with someone who believes that the money he's paying actually gives him the entitlement to do whatever he wants to my body, but I've never encountered anyone like that. The thing is, as I said before, I haven't met anyone who I think would actually describe themselves as paying for sex. The terms on which I continue to see these men are probably less explicitly negotiated than an escort's terms would be. I don't have flat rates, for example. I've heard escorts complaining that people who use sugar baby sites are unprofessional, and I think that from an escort's perspective they probably are. Clarisse Thorn: If people are unwilling to actually talk about sex for money, it must be hard to negotiate your encounters. Do you have a set of steps for negotiation? Olivia: I haven't been doing this for very long. It's varied so far. Usually, I meet them for some kind of meal, and we chat. We have a perfunctory conversation, like -- "How was your day?" Then one of us will say something like, "Tell me a bit more about what you're looking for. Why are you on the site?” Then we'll explain our deal to each other. Like, he might say: "I'm divorced, I'm looking for companionship.” At some point, money comes up. I am always extremely vague when I talk about money. I've found a good deal of variation in how squeamish people are about money. For example, one client was saying that he want