DA did not, then, also begin arresting strippers. And what about random vanilla couples on a standard date-type thing, where the woman makes eyes at the man over dinner, and the man pays for the meal? Sounds like "sexual conduct for money” to me. Which could totally be prostitution, folks, so watch your backs. In his piece "Is There Such A Thing As Kinky Sex?", Dr. Marty Klein says that: If practicing kinky sex makes you "other," not one of "us," if it has non-sexual implications, if it means you're defective or dangerous -- who wants that? And so as "kinky sex" and its practitioners are demonized, everyone is concerned -- am I one of "those people"? It makes people fear their fantasies or curiosity, which then acquire too much power. It leads to secrecy between partners, as people withhold information about their preferences or experiences. ... I'd like to destroy the idea of binary contrast -- that kinky and non-kinky sex are clearly different. Instead, I suggest that kinky and vanilla sex are parts of a continuum, the wide range of human eroticism. We all slide side to side along that continuum during our lives, sometimes in a single week. We don't need to fear our fantasies, curiosity, or (consensual) sexual preferences. They don't make us bad or different, just human. Some people like being emotional outlaws. They'll always find a way to get the frisson of otherness. But most people don't want to live that way. So ending kink's status as dangerous and wrong, and its practitioners as "other," is the most liberating thing we can do -- for everyone. That's certainly reasonable from a political standpoint. I've made similar arguments. (Some folks, such as the brilliant male submissive writer maymay, also argue against the common idea that "kink" is limited to "BDSM"; they prefer an expansive definition of "kink" that denotes a vaster cornucopia of sexuality.) Plus, I even suspect that a lot of the distinctions made by BDSMers ourselves are based far more on stigma