I've heard from a few other BDSM submissives that they like feeling anger during their encounters, that they need anger in order to get where they want to go. If I follow the thread of anger, now.... Where will it take me? te OK OK This post can be found on the Internet at: http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2010/12/26/anger-fear-and-pain/ te OK oe te Kk ok te KK EVOLUTION: [theory] Sexual Openness: Two Ways To Encourage It This was written in 2010, and it amazes me how I've changed since then. I don't like to talk about people being "further along" in their sexual experimentation than others; people are simply in different places, based on their preferences and experiences. I look at this piece now and I think that maybe it would be better-written if Id tried to talk about sexual evolution in a more neutral way. However, it's undeniable that when I was younger, I often felt like I was somehow "held up" or "inhibited," and I no longer feel that way about sex. And I do think that in general, lots of people want to explore but aren't sure how to overcome their own hesitance and psychological blocks. Some of them even write to me for advice, and I can only tell them what worked for me: the approach I outlined in this post. te OK OK Sexual Openness: Two Ways To Encourage It I've been thinking a lot lately about the factors that went into my sexual evolution. People have always seen me as sexually open-minded, and I had an extraordinarily liberal upbringing... but at the same time, I think I spent a long time surprisingly buttoned-up. Part of it was the men I fell in love with, the partners I had. Monogamy felt right to me, and that effectively meant that once I was in a relationship, it was hard to explore sexuality beyond what my lovers were comfortable with. I've often looked back in frustration at sexual shame and inhibitions that I feel were imposed on me by some past partners. But at the same time, there's no denying that -- even when my partners were relativel