entitled to any kind of sex from a partner -- ever. If your partner loves you but doesn't want to have sex with you? That's a respectable choice. If you're really turned on, but your partner can't stand the idea of having sex right now? That's a respectable choice. Those two are easy, I think, but how about these? + If your partner used to do something with you a lot, but doesn't want to do it anymore? That's a respectable choice. + If you are married to your partner, but ze doesn't want to have sex? That's a respectable choice. + If your partner performed a sexual act with another partner but would prefer not to do it with you? That's a respectable choice. + If you know your partner likes a certain kind of sex, but they don't want to do it right now? That's a respectable choice. + If you think a certain act is "mild" and "taken for granted," like kissing or tickling, but your partner doesn't want to do it? That's a respectable choice. By the way, if you (like I once did) feel as though your partner is entitled to sex of any kind, I encourage you to re-examine that feeling. Ditto if you've got a little voice in your head telling you that you "ought to” be up for sex all the time just because you don't get it very often... or that you "ought to” be up for sex if you've done it with your partner before... or whatever. The other best thing that ever happened to my sex life was when I finally, finally, finally internalized the idea that my partners don't ever "deserve" sex for any reason -- that there's no reason I ever "should" be having sex -- and that the only reason I should ever, ever, ever do anything sexual is because I legitimately want to. Of course, if you truly believe that you need a certain kind of sexuality in your life, then you're absolutely entitled to ask your partner to consider it -- and you're entitled to leave the relationship if ze isn't up for it. But this doesn't mean that you "deserve" to do that act with that person, or that your partner "owes