giving them to their partners. (The amazing sex education site Scarleteen later implemented the same idea, in a much more comprehensive way than I had!) I suggested that partners write out their fantasies and email them to each other, or write out descriptions of their mutual sexual experiences -- long accounts, describing how they felt about everything and what sticks out in their minds -- and send those to each other, too, so they can get each others’ perspectives on what they've done. (By the way, I still offer a much-improved version of that workshop on my list of events, lectures, and workshops, just in case you're interested in bringing me in....) God, it's so hard to talk about what we want. It's even hard to talk about talking about what we want. I mean, it's hard enough to figure out what we want in the first place -- but communicating it... eeek! And it's worth noting that this is not just a problem of having good sex. As was pointed out recently on the blog for the wonderful sex-positive anthology Yes Means Yes!: [There is a] need to demystify and destigmatize communication about sex. If we can't talk about what we like and what we want, we will always have problems making clear what it is we're consenting to. If we can't be frank about what we do want, we put a lot of weight on the need to communicate what we don't. Giving everyone great sexual communication skills doesn't just give us all better sex -- it fights rape. There's a noble cause for you! ... SO, that's my five-pointed analysis. And that's what I'm pushing for. My goals are not just to get people thinking that sex is awesome and sexual freedom is important. It's going to be hard, and it's going to be an uphill battle, but I'm hoping that I can not only help out with sexual liberation -- I'm hoping to improve it. te OK oe This can be found on the Internet at: http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2010/1 1/1 1/classic-repost-liberal-sex-positive-sex- education-whats-missing/ te OK ok te KK te OK OK